Did you ever have one of those days? You know, the day where everything starts off going as it should and somewhere along the line the train jumps your perfectly laid out, planned to the minute tracks? A day when your school-aged child throws a tantrum and you basically throw your own shock-and-awe fit right back?
Note: I’m being age specific, not because I’m guilty (HA!) but because babies wouldn’t get that you were upset, they’d be selfishly crying, not stopping to appreciate the crazy scene happening right in front of them. Also, they won’t remember.
School-aged kids, they would stop, stare and remember.
They will remember so hard you will wish away that moment of pure embarrassment.
Then, hopefully, one day they will bring it up and instead of cringing and feeling bad, you will laugh right along with them. “Remember that day…” and you will realize that horrible moment doesn’t define you, in fact it has taught several lessons: we’re all human and make mistakes; when you feel you are reaching your breaking point – take a moment, in private; apologies can go a long way; people (especially children) forgive; and we are hardest on ourselves, allow yourself the grace to admit your mistake and to do better the next time.
After all, no mother is perfect, you just don’t see everyone else’s imperfection as much as your own.
Are you still with me? Are you understanding, nodding your head in agreement or thinking, “I have no idea what she’s talking about?”
If you’re the latter, “Yay you!” Keep on keeping on. Nothing more to see here.
For the rest of us, there’s a place for us.
A nice place where even if you are in your pajamas at 5PM nursing your 5-times reheated morning coffee scanning Pinterest looking for a simple (on Pinterest?) last minute meal, you can find other Mommas who just may be doing the same.
A place where there’s no judgement about doing your very best and still sometimes coming up short. A place where you can connect with other moms to find encouragement, honesty and support and, lest you think it’s all serious, you can find active, funny and joyful moms. All doing the same thing – looking for company and understanding on this motherhood journey.
I’ve written before about a book I love, Mother of All Meltdowns. In it you’ll find real moms telling their very real stories about situations that brought out their less-than-stellar side. It’s honest and hilarious, I related to more than my fair share of the stories.
The book was very successful and the informal community that formed around it has now become “a place,” the place I’ve been talking about. No Mother Is Perfect is a community for the perfectly imperfect mother! A place where you can let your guard down and talk about the meltdowns, struggles, and less rosy aspects of being a mom…
In my review of the book, I told you about some of my favorite stories. Come by tomorrow when I’ll be posting an interview with Kristen from Four Hens and a Rooster, who wrote my favorite story, along with my Simple Summer Sangria recipe and a review of Anew Riesling.
Today, I have the pleasure of interviewing Jen Kehl. If you’ve visited me before, she may be familiar because I’ve talked about her blog and link-ups, she is the music guru and creator of Twisted Mix-Tape Tuesdays which is on hiatus until fall. Before you go all “is she doing this whole post to get me to listen to her music again?” don’t worry, I’m not. (but you could check out some music I love, if you wanted to)
I’m doing this because Jen is one of the authors of Mother of All Meltdowns and her story in the book is hilarious.
Well, it’s hilarious to me because I didn’t have to vacuum up glass from the backyard. Or get locked out of my house by my child, on purpose. You really should check it out.
Also, because I’ve said before one of the best perks of blogging are the relationships and friendships you create along the way.
I started following Jen about a year ago, right around the start of Twisted Mix-Tape and my own blog. I had no idea what I was in for with blogging and I certainly didn’t know I would meet all these great people. Who knew I would find a kindred-musical-spirit right out of the gate? Lucky me.
If you haven’t met Jen, she is a home-schooling momma to a beautiful son who is an active part of her blog, My Skewed View, and now has his own. If you have time for one of his videos you must see How Puppies are Born.
To know Jen better, her story in her words is way better than anything I could write here, so stop by and meet this authentic and very real mom, doing her very best, just like the rest of us.
My No Mother is Perfect Interview with Jen Kehl, author, Mother of All Meltdowns
You are the playlist guru, you are hanging out listening to music with your family: singing, dancing, being silly – name 3 songs you’d be playing.
We have a lot of playlists on our iPod, but what comes to mind is the list we call Izze’s Faves. It’s hard to pick three, but….
Knock Three Times – Tony Orlando and Dawn
Bad, Bad Leroy Brown – Jim Croce
Istanbul – They Might Be Giants
Do you live by a schedule or are you more relaxed? Do you enjoy the unexpected “side-tracking” that comes with managing life with a child/children or are you prepared for the unexpected and keep up with the schedule you’ve set?
Since I homeschool we have to have somewhat of a schedule. And because Isaiah has sensory processing disorder, he doesn’t do well with transitions. So I try to keep things on somewhat of a schedule, but I often fail! I also don’t do well with surprises, I have always wanted to be more spontaneous but thankfully I am the right mom for this kid and we try to have a plan. Also, if I don’t eat regularly I get mean…so, there’s an incentive to stick to a schedule!
In MoAM you mentioned you prepare homemade mac and cheese. That is both one of my specialties and one of my kiddos faves. Can you share your recipe?
I’m gonna trick you into eating healthy mac n’ cheese
- 1 pkg turkey hot dogs, sliced
- 12oz shredded parmesan cheese (2 6oz pkgs)
- 1 large head of broccoli
- 1 pkg macaroni or spiral pasta
- 2T olive oil
- preheat the oven to broil and place the oven rack on the top spot
- set the water to boil for the pasta, cook according to instructions RESERVE 1CUP OF WATER WHEN PASTA IS DONE
- steam broccoli until just done, do not overcook
- in large oven-proof skillet brown hot dogs in olive oil over medium heat
- add steamed broccoli to the skillet and turn heat to low
- add cooked, drained pasta to broccoli and hot dogs
- turn off heat
- mix well
- add 3/4 of the cheese gradually, mixing well, adding small amounts of reserved water to help cheese become a sauce using as much water as needed
- once mixed and “saucy” sprinkle remaining cheese on top and place skillet in oven for 5 minutes
- let stand 5 minutes and eat up!
And finally, do you have a recent meltdown you can tell us about or have you written about it and can share a link?
I did freak out at my husband a while back, the dogs had an unexpected meeting with a possum in the backyard. It was a pretty funny story so I had to write about it.
It was called It’s a Good Thing We’re Not Real Survivalists Here’s an excerpt:
Here’s a lesson I learned
a while back tonight, about what would happen if the apocalypse came tomorrow. I learned that I would have no one to count on but me and my super-high-powered LED flashlight from Wal-Mart.
Yeah my husband talks the talk and walks the . Well what can I say? Judge me if you will, we’ve got the “protection”, we’ve got the go bag, we’ve got the highest Lumen LED flashlight you can buy so you can blind any wacko wielding a gun and we may even have a few years worth of food and water stashed in some undisclosed location. Not to mention the various accoutrements like water purifiers in case of contamination, waterproof match containers, super high energy burners in a can (for cooking) and flares. Cause everyone needs flares.
But when judgement day comes, I learned tonight, that my husband is gonna be screaming “What should I do? What should I do?” like a little girl. Click here to read more…
Thank you Jen, for taking the time to share your story and recipe with me and the millions of readers who will now be checking out your blog, the book, and the community website. I know you are busy and I appreciate your participation.
Now, here is some love for everyone visiting today, to celebrate the launch of the new community, there is a fabulous No Mother is Perfect, But Every Mother is Unique Mother’s Day Giveaway brought to you by The Mother of All Meltdowns…Enter between April 1, 2014 to May 11, 2014 to win one of three fabulous prize packages including a three-night stay for two at a destination spa!
Also, I would be crazy not to mention you can pick up your copy of Mother of All Meltdowns today through Mother’s Day for only $0.99 on Amazon! Mother’s Day is Sunday, May 11th 2014, and we want moms everywhere to accept the meltdowns, stop chasing perfection, and embrace their uniquity. You won’t find this word listed in Webster’s, but you will find it within every mother on the planet. Enter between April 1, 2014 to May 11, 2014 to win one of three fabulous prize packages including a three night stay for two at a destination spa!
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Please Read (all the way to the end, if you want to be my friend): I received a copy of The Mother of All Meltdowns for my original review. I also bought 2 copies, after I read the copy I was given, because I enjoyed it so much. I did not receive any compensation for my own meltdown story (I actually had to pay the doctor.) All opinions about the book and community are my own. I received no additional compensation for introducing the No Mother is Perfect community to you today. That link goes right to my profile, so when you stop by we can be friends.
This was a long one, thanks for sticking with me! Now you have to let me know: did you read the book? Do you have a meltdown story? Did you check out the No Mother is Perfect community? Did you friend me? Do you like wine? Do you like chicken? If yes (especially to both!) stop back tomorrow, you are in for a treat!