Figuring Out My Why
This past weekend I travelled with a friend to Dallas for Bloggy Boot Camp. This just happens to be the third event by The SITSgirls that I’ve attended and I’m so glad I went. (You can read about my second trip: Getting to Bloggy Boot Camp Charlotte, here.) I always leave their events smarter and happier and more focused.
This trip I spent the “down time” going over my notes and Figuring Out My Why. I needed to, I really did. While there, I had some moments of clarity and now I’m so grateful I took the time for myself. I love this conference and everything I get from participating in it. Maybe I’ll become a serious SITS fan, like a Phish fan, following them around the country and going to all of their events. Soaking up the knowledge and energy. Ummm, probably not, but I can’t say it didn’t cross my mind.
I’ve got a lot to share in terms of what I learned, about the amazing people I met, some invaluable influencer insights to improve my scores and stats and some amazing best practices for blogging. But at the end of the day (or four days in this case) it all comes down to my why. Why I’d put myself out there: travel, take time away from my family, forge new friendships, and develop relationships with other women and men doing the same thing I am.
I do it because I love writing and sharing stories and learning new things. I do it because I have (secretly) always wanted to write a book. I do it because I cannot honestly encourage my kids to follow their dreams if I don’t take the time to follow my own.
And that’s the bottom line for me. I talk to my kids every day about life, the things they are doing and want to do; the things I do and want to do; and I need to be able to encourage them to take chances and put themselves “out there.” I can’t encourage them if I don’t take the time to encourage myself.
She is my why…
She, who loves soccer, gymnastics, cooking, making jewelry, art and her friends. Who will talk my ears off, but loves being around me so much she will follow me around the house to be sure I don’t miss a single word she says. She will sit beside me reading just so we can be close. (I’ll be honest, it’s a pretty great feeling to be that important to someone.)
He is my why…
He, who always follows the rules, loves everything sports, is a math wiz, and wants to be a professional LAX player (and asks me once a week why it doesn’t pay more). He is truly bothered that he can’t play each and every sport available to him. “Why can’t I play football and soccer in the fall?” “Who says I can’t play basketball and hockey in the winter?” (I do, because 6 months + 80 hockey games = no time for basketball!!)
And he is my why…
He, who loves sports, airsoft and video games, and is so crazy about hanging with his friends that we regularly have a houseful of boys. Who is almost as savvy with his electronics as I am. Who is now my height and reminds me of it daily. Who is growing up too fast (as they all are, but I see it in him first) and has already started the process of independence and pulling away.
It would be a shame and I would be a poor example for them if I didn’t do something tangible that I love on an almost daily basis. They need to see me do “important for me” things so someday they may be able to consider my actions as an example of how to make their lives better by doing something, even a small something, for themselves.
As a mom, as their mom, I hope they get to do what they love every single day of their lives. If for some reason they don’t, I hope they remember what I did to incorporate my dreams into my day-to-day and know that they can do it too.
Have you thought about this? What do you do to set an example for your kids so they know you are making efforts to be happy with your life? Have you spent time “Figuring Out My Why?” Do you talk about your dreams with your children? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
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